Informative Links and Valuable Sites:
Book list from the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists
Cory Silverberg writes a great newsletter on a wide range of sexuality topics. Here is a sample. Subscribe if it is helpful.
My Beautiful Sex Life: Sex educational website, informative and fun, unique
Orchid Project Female Genital Cutting is Ending. Also see my discussion below.
Health and Humor
In a world where there is so much grief and hardship, humor can contradict that heaviness and isolation that often creates a feeling of hopelessness and the sense that, “No one understands what I am going through.” When we can laugh and even laugh at ourselves or our situation, this tends to lighten things up and release hormones that positively affect our immune system and can buffer the negative affect from the stress of being upset, annoyed, sad, etc. This can lead us to finding a healthy response to our situation.
The healing power of humor is serious business! When the proverb, "Laughter is the best Medicine," was written they were not joking! Norman Cousins, a journalist, became known as the man who cured himself through laughter and was even appointed to the faculty of the University of California Los Angeles School of Medicine for this- and he was not even a doctor! He told his story in his book, “Anatomy of An Illness” in 1979, which was later made into a movie. Told that he had little chance of relief from the excruciating non-stop pain of Ankylosing Spondylitis, Cousins developed a recovery program for that pain incorporating megadoses of Vitamin C along with a positive attitude, love, faith, hope, and laughter induced by Marx Brothers films. "I made the joyous discovery that ten minutes of genuine belly laughter had an anesthetic effect and would give me at least two hours of pain-free sleep," he reported.
Dr Bernie Siegel, a well-known physician, surgeon and lecturer, who worked with terminally ill cancer patients, witnessed the miracle of spontaneous remissions in many of his patients which he did not attribute to mainstream medicine, but to several prescribed self healing activities including unconditional love, doing what you love, getting anger out and enjoying laughter several times a day, and also credits the hard work of his patients. He has a CD called Humor and Healing where he emphasizes the healing power of laughter and how laughter boosts the immune system. He has many patient-empowerment books, dvds, & cds including his latest book, The Art of Healing: Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self Healing, which is a follow-up to his best seller, Love, Medicine and Miracles which sold nearly 2 million copies.
“Ooh Girl” - An Honest R&B Song
For all you all-night lovers, this one is for you - Very Funny - Very Honest
Porn Sex vs Real Sex - The differences explained with food.
Well Done - Educational and Fun!
“Brave” - Sara Bareilles
A fun / song / dance / video to remind us to say what we FEEL!
Why Being Aware of Genital Mutilation is Important
According to AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists) and many other sexuality educational organizations worldwide, the USA is considered a “sex-negative country” as demonstrated by antiquated attitudes and laws relating to the sexuality of all of it’s citizens, (that’s you and me and everyone), regarding sex education, pregnancy, abortion, birth control and even being a single adult having consensual sex. Thus living in a “sex-negative country” directly affects our rights to sexual freedom!. With that said, we have been progressing with the hard work of many professionals and non-professionals and will continue to do so. Please refer to Dr. Marty Klein’s blog Sexual Intelligence - November 29, 2014 “Giving Thanks for Sex; However...”
However, worldwide at the same time, there is a ritual called Female Genital Mutilation (FGM), or Female Genital Cutting FGC) which has violently stolen sexual freedom from more than 130 million girls and women worldwide according to the U.N. and is continuing every day! This ritual cuts away either fully or partially a girls external genitals including her clitoris, (with 8 thousand nerve endings), and in some cases includes sewing her closed! AND it is approved and arranged by the mothers or fathers without the girls’ permission! It is being done today even in industrialized countries including the US and Great Britain in immigrant enclaves! Many girls die as a result of infection, trauma or excessive bleeding! In fact just last week on NPR (national public radio) I heard about a 13 year old girl in Egypt who begged her grandmother and everyone she could not to have it done, but she was forced against her will, had her genitals cut and died. (Posted on NPR November 21st, 2014 entitled “Why Laws Couldn’t Protect This 13-Year-Old Girl Who Died From Female Genital Mutilation”)
Please watch this video “Desert Flower” YouTube trailer below produced by Oscar Winner Peter Hermann, which tells the true story brilliantly about an extraordinary woman who crossed a desert and changed the world. It is based on the bestselling novel written by Waris Dirie and Cathleen Miller, which sold more than 11 million copies worldwide. I feel that the more people who become aware of this violent injustice against girls and women, the faster it will be extinguished. Please find the time to check out this website and film. In order for all of us to enjoy our sexual freedom and rights, this terrible practice must end!